When I started my career, back in the mid-1980s, I was hired to be an editorial assistant at a certain top tier magazine in New York City. As part of the job interview I took a typing test. I was also informed that the guy I’d be working for had a reputation for groping his assistants. “Can you handle that?” I was asked. Not “If it happens report him.” Not “He is being brought up on charges.” Not even “We’re trying to deal with it and we’re sorry.” Just “Can you handle that?”
WWAMD? I thought (That’s “What Would Ann Marie Do?“)
Of course, I said yes. I worked for the guy for over a year and “handled it” by keeping six feet away from him at all times–believe me, I earned my $13,500 salary. (Note: I also worked for two amazing, generous, encouraging editors and mentors to whom I owe my career: Adam Moss and David Hirshey).
I thought we’d evolved since then (this was pre-Anita Hill’s testimony in the Clarence Thomas hearings) but my heart sunk while reading Amanda Hess‘ amazing post on yesterday’s XXFactor about Lego’s latest foray into reinforcing sexism among children:
When journalist Josh Stearns introduced his son to the world of Lego this year, he was disappointed to find that in addition to its trademark building blocks, the company now produces a Lego-branded sticker set that articulates the innermost thoughts of its little plastic construction workers. Alongside phrases like “MEN AT WORK” and “GETTING DIRTY,” the set includes an image of a Lego worker at rest, leaning back in a hard hat and a pair of cool-dude sunglasses, shouting “HEY BABE!” at an unseen target. It’s marketed to kids aged “1 to 101.”
Here is the photo that Stearns put on his tumblr:
Meanwhile, my daughter is getting make-your-own messenger bags for her birthday with iron on transfers that say “spoiled” and “brat.” (Not by Lego, I should say–this was a “craft” present a couple of years back).
As I’ve said before, Gary Cross, an historian of childhood and author of the excellent Kid Stuff: Toys and the Changing World of American Childhood once told me that toys communicate to children our expectations of their adult roles. Criminey!
I wrote an editorial in the New York Times when Lego introduced its friends line discussing why promoting gender segregation in toys was a bad (though lucrative) idea. The wonderful women and girls at Spark.org also launched a petition that garnered so many thousands of signatures that Lego met with them to discuss how, at the very least, they could push the Friends line past hair salons. The company seemed to respond, at least a tiny bit, at least for the girls.
Not for boys. Apparently Lego has no problem reinforcing the idea among our sons that girls are “other,” that they are subtly inferior and, ultimately, objects for their eventual enjoyment (and current scorn). I don’t want the boys I know growing up with that message. I don’t want the boys my daughter some day learns with, dates, works with, marries, raises children with (yes, I am already dreaming about being a grandma, so sue me) believing sexual harassment is “funny” or in any way ok. That’s why I love the Sanford Harmony Program’s attempt to develop curriculum that, from preschool onward, encourages friendship and mutual understanding between boys and girls.
Stearns, who is doing his best to raise a decent, caring human (bless his heart) writes about his own experience going up against Lego. Their first response was classic defense: lighten up, it was a joke:
Charlotte Simonsen, Senior Director at LEGO’s corporate communications office told me that “To communicate the LEGO experience to children we typically use humor and we are sorry that you were unhappy with the way a minifigure was portrayed here.”
Ace journalist that he is, he kept pushing and subsequently received another note, this time, from Andrea Ryder, the head of the LEGO Group’s Outbound Licensing Department. She wrote: “I am truly sorry that you had a negative experience with one of our products […] the product is no longer available and we would not approve such a product again.”
That’s progress. Stearns writes that he appreciates Lego’s responsiveness. I do, too. I’m also glad the stickers are off the market. But still. How did something like that get through their vetting process? And, if you spend any time on this blog, you know that these incidents (across toyland) are not rare.
Yeah, it’s one toy. One little toy. But one among so many. As Stearns writes:
If we don’t call out these things when we see them, then even the little pieces of culture, like a pack of stickers, can serve to normalize sexist behavior and harassment. If you care about these issues here are some great resources and organizations to follow and support:
- Hollaback – http://www.ihollaback.org/
- Collective Action for Safe Spaces – http://www.collectiveactiondc.org/
- Stop Street Harassment – http://www.stopstreetharassment.org/
- Ms. Magazine – http://msmagazine.com/
- Women in Media and News – http://wimnonline.org/
- SPARK Movement – http://www.sparksummit.com/
- Miss Representation – http://www.missrepresentation.org/
Couldn’t have said it better. Thanks, Josh.
Photo from a previous post on Lego: